Living with NVLD, by Ryan

By January 25, 2021 January 27th, 2021 NVLD Bloggers

My journey started when I came into this world by the lovely parents of Sam and Marica in 1985. My parents did not know what kind of kid they would get. Early on, I was a tough baby struggling with things. My parents did not know that later on their son would have a nonverbal learning disability. At the age of 5, I was tested and officially diagnosed with a nonverbal learning disability. 

Over the years I received occupational therapy and accommodations in school. I had a 504 which is a plan for students that need accommodations in regular education. This means I had many tutors, counselors, and academic advisors. School was not easy for me. I was taken advantage of a lot and bullied by kids. Many days I would come home and cry and think about why they are not including me. I would go to games and events by myself and then afterwards wonder why they would not invite me to the parties or outings. The kids would take advantage of me by having me give them rides or money, and they would not give me any gas money in return. I was too scared to say anything in fear of them not wanting to hangout. That was my way of coping with these situations.

I attended York College Of Pennsylvania where I opened up. I got involved in Hillel, I was the Basketball Manager and joined Best Buddies. I would go to the games and parties with my roommates and friends. I still stay in touch with my college friends. It was a great experience!

Over the course of many years still living with a disability I had learned many coping strategies by going to many therapists. These coping strategies include writing things down, making a list on my phone, setting reminders on my calendar, mediation, yoga, and deep breathing.

At times things are still difficult for me. Sometimes I put all my energy into one thing, for example a company job, and if it does not work out then I get upset with myself and them for not giving me a chance. Another example is with certain references to movies that I do not understand. The last way is when I try to have a relationship with somebody, by going out on dates and then get to like the person and they in the end do not like me. 

That is why I have compassion for the work that I do today. I never thought I would be working with individuals with disabilities, but that is my calling. Today, I work as a teaching assistant at a special education school, a center for autism, recreation programs for two different townships, and do community integration work. I also volunteer with the organization called Best Buddies and, in the past, coached Special Olympics. I feel I am making a difference in the world and people’s lives. 

I want to reach as many people as I can and hope to inspire people with disabilities that they can do anything they want to do! If you want to connect with me, please feel free to reach out to me. My email address is rhlundy85@gmail.com. I look forward to connecting with you!!!

Ryan

My name is Ryan Lundy and I am 35 years old. I am passionate about helping people with disabilities get their stories out there and advocate for NVLD too. I enjoy working out, eating healthy, and going to the gym.

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