I am 27 years old from NYC with NVLD. My childhood/adulthood was very rough. By the time I was 18, I went to 5 different schools. The bullying because of what I had was tremendous. The one thing that kept me sane and gave me a sense of escape was music. Through music I was able to perform in front of my peers and write my true feelings. I also was able to make friends and played in several bands and then ventured into the production chair. However, sadly my mom did not make me feel accepted as a person who has NVLD.
Music Life/College
By the time I was 18, I was double majoring as a music business and communications. I was lucky enough to get two scholarships and felt at home in the music program. Although college was hard academically for me I kept pushing forward. This in turn introduced me to my production partner, Andrew, and we were able to be signed to an agency and tour, throughout college and the NYC and Miami area. These experiences were, and still are, the most rewarding experience as our music has made people happy and gave them enjoyable experiences at our shows.
Life with NVLD and my Parents
My mom wanted to socially coach me and although I get she was trying to help, she did not realize the toll the judgment took on me. My dad who had OCD did understand what I had and worked hard to make sure I had the support.
When I finally went to college, I sadly went through the horrible mess of my parents divorcing. It caused a strain in the relationship between me and my sister and my parents. Me and my sister still have a strained relationship. Even in relationships with girlfriends, I was sadly judged for it. However, I am with a better person now.
Work Life
My work life at [insert name here] took a turn for the worse due to the fact my bosses discriminated against me because of it. However, thanks to an amazing supportive friend at the company I was moved to a much more supportive boss. This lead to an amazing opportunity in the entertainment field which I am starting soon.
Conclusion
I wanted to share my story to let people know no matter if you have NVLD (high functioning) or not, there is a life beyond your disorder. I had many ups and downs with my life but know there is always a brighter path. Not picking up on social cues is still hard for me, but I see improvement by taking my time with things and not letting my anxiety get the best of me at work and in relationships. I work through the stress with 4 methods. 1. Deep Breath 2. Meds 3. Talk Therapy 4. Taking my time. One thing I learned from 4 years in the work place doing things rushed will create mistakes, taking your time and communicating with a team and looking for the best out of a project should be your main goal. So to all my NVLD brothers and sisters keep a smile on your face and know that you are talented, smart, and hard working. The one thing I learned is to trust my gut, and always never be afraid to ask questions.
Matt
I work in entertainment in social media and I produce music and play shows on the side. Living with NVLD feels like a shield of armor for me and I am not afraid to admit I have it.
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