I was diagnosed with NVLD at 26, just months after earning my Master’s degree. Although the diagnosis wasn’t surprising, it was bittersweet. For years, I blamed myself for struggling with math, visual-spatial tasks, executive functioning, and social communication despite working twice as hard as everyone else just to feel drained.
I grieve that an earlier diagnosis might have spared me years of self-doubt, especially after being bullied and made to feel like an outsider where I grew up and later struggling to find my place in college despite desperately wanting to belong and have meaningful friendships. I am grateful for the support of my parents and my few close friends. I am still trying to give myself grace for withdrawing and becoming avoidant despite wanting belonging and an active social life more than anything since I had no idea how to manage my discomfort. Today, I hope sharing my story helps others feel less alone, advocate for themselves sooner, and know that a diagnosis can be the beginning of self-understanding rather than shame.
Paola
I am 27 years old from NY and was only diagnosed with NVLD at 26. Despite all the social, emotional, and academic obstacles I’ve faced at a young age, thanks to supportive family and perseverance, I’ve managed to overcome 100% of the rough patches so far. I am grateful to have found the NVLD Project and am hoping to find a supportive community. I hope to make people feel less alone and to be someone my younger self would look up to. My passions include travel, music, writing, reading, and exploring new cultures.
